Sunday, January 27, 2013

We are ok

Many times I wonder how people communicated needs without the blessings of today's technology.  This weekend we surely used every facet we had to try to get the word out.  Now that our craziness has calmed down a bit, I wanted to write some specific details - both for my records and for our caring friends and family asking about Cohen.  Let me start with we are all ok, and Cohen is improving each day, but we could still use your prayers as we still don't know what happened!

If you've kept up with my facebook posts, you'll remember that we thought Cohen had caught some of the cold I had over the weekend.  He wasn't sleeping (like up every 1/2 hour to an hour) and generally just fussier than usual.  We took him to the pediatrician on Wednesday just to have him checked out and she confirmed he was fine, possibly fighting the cold, but fine.

Thursday night we were supposed to have an impromtu play date with our friend Cristen and Kenleigh.  I picked up Cohen from Ms. Susan's house and she mentioned he was just not himself.  He was vomiting a bit more than the usual reflux issues, had only eaten 5 ounces, and she wanted me to watch him.  Not 10 minutes after getting him home and pulling out groceries to cook, Cohen was vomiting.  Everyone told me I would know the difference between reflux/spit-up and vomit, and let me tell you, I knew.  We changed his clothes and thought he would be better....until he wasn't.  The vomit continued and was turning green.  His color was fading to a nice ashy grey as well. By this point it was after hours so we called our pediatrician's line and the nurse told us to go ahead and go to urgent care.  Cohen had no other symptoms besides green puke and not eating - no fever, no rash, no weird poops.  Fortunately, Cristen was there to reassure me that I should go and that this was probably something a doctor would need to diagnose.  Thanks Cristen ;-)

So we go to the urgent care clinic, get checked in, and Cohen pukes in front of the doctor...and it looks like:
To which the doctor responds with, "I can't treat you here and am sending you to the ER." Cue meltdown on my part.  She explained that green vomit is bile and in infants can be life-threatening.  She suspected he had pyloric stenosis and would need an ultrasound to confirm.  If this was the case, we would be scheduled for a surgery to correct it.  So we packed up the car and trecked it over to Children's hospital in Plano. 

The fabulous staff there put us in a 'well' waiting room as there was TONS of cough/cold/flu/sick kids in the general ER.  Since this first doctor had already diagnosed what the issue was, Cohen was really waiting for an ultrasound and not ill (cue 4 hour wait time...grrrr). This is us in our first room.  Notice I still have a bit of eyeliner on - that didn't last long ;-(

He looks so tiny on the hospital gurney...

Here is Cohen getting his ultrasound to check for the stenosis.  He did great and kept grabbing the cable.  The tech, Jeff, was great and said there was no way it was stenosis, that the opening to his stomach was fine and we would need further tests to see what it was.  Again, bile flowing the wrong way in infants means there is some sort of intestinal blockage, and we still didn't know what was causing the vomiting.

 Watching Mr. Jeff while we took pictures of his tummy (he still hadn't eaten since 7ish).  This was around 2 am.  Since Cohen hadn't eaten, he didn't repeat the green vomit again....and as of today (Sunday) hasn't vomited green again.
 The second test they did were X-rays on his lower GI.  They thought it could be intussusception, where part of your large intestine folds over and causes a blockage, but the Xray came back negative....

Cue transfer to Children's hospital downtown to do the final test for a blocked or twisted intestine.  Via Ambulance.  At 3:30 am.  These parents were in TOTAL meltdown at this point.  The doctors continued to reassure us that this was going to give us the answer to the cause of the green bile throw up.
 Cohen thankfully was resting fairly peacefully although he hadn't eaten in almost 12 hours at this point and the IV fluids were his only source nutrition.  He couldn't have any time with mommy on the breast because of the dye test they were planning, and for all tests to ensure they could clearly see any and all issues that were there.
We arrived at Children's downtown at around 3:30am and were told that they were waiting for the attending radiologist as he/she would have to be the ones to read/conduct the flouroscope test.  We waited in the small ER room until finally at 8:15am or so the charge nurse came and let us know that radiology would be ready for us in about 30 minutes. 

 Lo and behold we were able finally able to go back to radiology at about 8:45am where the flouroscope test was done, and all we can tell you is that Patrick and I both pray that no one we know as a parent has to watch their child experience this exam.  The doctor and technologist were extrememly kind, gentle, and professional but the test included strapping Cohen to a small backboard with his arms up above his head and his little legs out straight as well.  The board was connected to a circular apparatus that allowed the doctor to move Cohen as if he were literally on a barbecue spit.  He could turn him sideways so that he could see from different angles where the dye was moving.  We learned that they can't anesthetize babies because of their size which made this whole procedure more challenging to witness.

They then send a thin "straw" up Cohen's nose and down his throat to send the dye through his system.  We were able to watch the monitor and see what the doctor was looking at as he tracked the dye through Cohen's intestines.  To say Cohen was distraught only begins to describe Cohen's reaction.  He had that cry that all parents dread from their child, the one that can't be described to someone in words, but as Patrick said it hurts your heart.  Patrick and I were able to talk to Cohen, but from a distance which we hoped was some small comfort to Cohen, but throughout the exam we spent most of the time holding each other and sobbing.  15 minutes (but what felt like a day) later we pulled our son off the exam table and calmed him down.  The radiologist immediately went through his findings and said he looked fine - that there was no blockage and the three life-threatening things were ruled out.

Off we went back to our ER room to wait on the doctor to tell us what to do next.  Cohen's face was a little scratched from the test, and I wanted a good picture of his little IV arm.  They wrapped him up in a premie pampers diaper so he wouldn't pull at it. 
 The orange band-aid where they did blood sugar tests since he wasn't eating and his hospital band were both on the right foot.  His left big toe had the heart-rate/oxygen monitor on him.  Cohen finally nursed about 10:00 am and kept the milk down, so they felt like he was in the clear.
They discharged us about 11:30 am, around 18 hours after this all began.  The ER doctor basically said they don't know what it was, that it could have worked itself out, but that we'd need to monitor him and watch for some specific symptoms.  The reason they don't think it was flu/virus is because he had no 'sick' symptoms.  Our pediatrician has been great this entire weekend, giving us her cell, and doing some separate research.  We will have a follow up appointment at some point this week to figure out where to go from here.  For now, we are ok.  Cohen is ok. We are recovering from a pretty traumatic event (first one is always the hardest, right?!?) but celebrated today with his baptism. God has a plan and we just have to TRUST that he will take care of our little Cohen.

For now, we have snuggled and loved on him a bit more than usual, and are hoping the worst is past.  We appreciate your continued prayers.

Blessings,



Thursday, January 24, 2013

4 month...

hangover?

Nope, that would be my non-sleeping booger causing all sorts of distress in our home. ;-)  Unfortunately we have resorted to lots of co-bed-sharing these past few weeks.  Some nights are better than others, but momma needs you back in your crib ASAP!!
Don't let the preciousness fool you...


Cohen,




At four months you are:

Height 25.5 inches (75%)
Weight 14 lbs 15 oz (50%)
-Growing out of small diapers into the mediums, almost out of the size 1 thirsties diapers, but now we can start trying the big diapers in our stash!  We are using up the rest of the size one disposables this week, we don't want to waste any diapers, but you will definitely be in size 2 after these handful are gone.
-Growing out of 3 month clothes but 3-6 fit you nicely.  We have a wonderful stash of footie pjs that keep your feet warm and are our go-to outfits most days.
-Still exclusively breastfed and seem to be much better on non-dairy and previcid twice daily!
Who me??

Other fun facts....

Jan 6 - rolled from front to back on his right side


You are talking and carrying on 'conversations.'  You prefer to talk with daddy and laugh with mommy.  Usually you are giggly-est on your changing table when we are changing your outfits.  I love the butterball open-mouthed laugh we get every time.  The few seconds of laughter make the long hours completely worth it!
Our family at the church blessing last week!


You've started laughing on cue.  Sometimes when we laugh, you laugh back without any tickling involved!

You notice EVERYTHING.  You are tracking people as they move across the room (especially mommy), moving ceiling fans, the puppies, and the list goes on.  Nursing has proved to be a challenge as every little thing distracts you, especially our voices and the phone.  We've tried to keep nursing sessions at home because being out and about is almost not worth the time unless its realllllly dark and quiet!

You are suuuuuuuper clingy.  To Mommy.  All. The. Time.  All the 'books' say this is normal and it should continue for a couple more weeks.  Even on your fussiest days, we can usually get a laugh out of you, so we still love you ;-)  Lets move past this fussy stage, ok?

You can:
Do pushups pretty well during tummy time

Communicate your irritation, joy, pain or boredom pretty well
Make bubbles with your saliva
Are sooo very heavy for the car seat, and still have 15 lbs to go
Chewing on your hands...constantly...and drooling
Love to bear weight on your legs.
Can hold onto a toy, it immediately goes to your mouth, but you haven't figured out how to pick it up
Can sit up with support
You've rolled ONCE from front to back, still nothing from back to front (On Jan. 6th...)

We love you booger-butt!!

Blessings,




Wednesday, January 16, 2013

My Craving

For the last 2 months or so I've been eating Gluten free (for me) and dairy free (for Cohen).  For the most part, I have adjusted well.  I've found that eating the same thing for most meals works best because I don't have to think about it.  Going out to eat has proven to be a challenge.  Most managers will work with me, but I still have this worry in the back of my mind that the food touched butter...and will Cohen pay for it later.

All that said, I've been complaining about not getting to eat dessert.  Ever.  Think of the things you could 'normally' eat on your cheat day:  cookies, cake, ice-cream, frozen yogurt, candy...the list goes on.  All the yummy holiday goodies were a no-go for me. Here my whining yet??

I have a wonderful band parent whose family also eats gluten free, Jennifer Cinquepalmi.  Last summer she had me over to her home and we talked recipes and diet considerations one afternoon.  I ordered both of her cookbooks, and let me tell you, they are the BEST.

I had the inspiration this weekend to finally make a dessert that I could eat.  A real dessert. A you-must-go-running-there-are-so-many-calories dessert ;-)  Last night Cohen was cooperating and soooooo

TA-DA!! Behold the molten cake!
Before turning them over

After taking a bite...sorry this out of order...look at that yummy gooeyness!

Coconut Ice Cream and a Strawberry for good measure
If you want to purchase her books, you can find them here.  I have both The Complete Book of Gluten-Free Cooking and Gluten-Free Deliciously by her.  The Molten Cake recipe is in the latter one.

Oh, and Cohen slept through the night (only got up once) last night.  I'm thinking I'll need to eat this more often if its puts him to sleep.  Just sayin'

Blessings ;-)




Tuesday, January 15, 2013

The problem with PJs

The problem with pjs is they are either....

Too hot or too cold

Too big and too long

Or too short and just perfect ;)

Our favorites right now are the target circo brand size 3-6 month and Children's place brand size 3-6 month.  Carter's 6 month are still a little long but 3 month is waaaay too short!  Also, gotta love the all cotton ones.  Fleece is too hot for our little man!

Blessings,



Friday, January 11, 2013

Happy 2013





This year with so many announcements and goings-on, we decided to do a digital holiday card.  Hopefully you've received our birth announcement via 'snail mail' and that you sometimes read our blog for updates.  I'll try not to be redundant and just give a general update on the year!

Patrick accepted a new position this fall with Flexjet, a part of the Bombardier group.  He is loving his role as Sr. HR Business Partner and we are loving the shortened commute of 15-20 minutes.   He is also pretty active at our church; preaching one Sunday, participating in choir, Sunday School and a church council committee.

I am in my eighth year teaching, my fourth at Lovejoy ISD, and still loving my middle school band kids! The transition to working momma has gone easier than I thought it would, although I really treasure the time at home when I get off work.  I've started easing back into running, but finding time has proven a bit more difficult with Cohen.  I still scrapbook on occasion and recently got a sewing machine - bring on the craft projects!

Cohen is getting bigger every day.  This no-sleeping stage has been a challenge, but he has made strides in his milestones so we will get through it. Previcid fixed his spit-up/vomiting issues, and the cloth diapers are going well.  He loves his Ms. Susan during the day but is such a mommy's boy at night.

Olivia and Bella have made the transition to 'just dogs' since Cohen's arrival ;-)  We try to spoil them with treats, but have dealt with some ornery side effects...lots of extra 'presents' around the house and barking for no reason.  Hopefully when Cohen is mobile, he'll wear them out a bit more and they won't have time to mope around the house. 

Thank you all for sending your holiday cards. We love hearing the updates!

Blessings,


Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Cohen's First Christmas with the Graftons

I know, I know.  I'm behind on posts.  But at least I'm blogging this week ;-)

We spent Christmas with the Grafton family this year.  It was a special time because it wasn't just Cohen's first, but also his cousin Finley's first Christmas!

We went out to eat at a Fuzzy's Taco shop (yummmy!) and Cohen thought he would look cute in Fin-Fin's hat.  I love his onesie here as well.  It reads, "The Elf made me do it!"



I apologize in advance for the onslaught of pictures.  I couldn't get Blogger to put them in order, but you kinda get the point.  I included this one lest you think our little Angel was perfect all the time...

I DONT WANNA OPEN MY PRESENTS!!!!!!!

This was a first for us.  He fell asleep by the fire on his stomach.  This is the same kid that screams after about 2 minutes of tummy time.  Maybe the holidays just wore his butt out!
Opening gifts on Christmas morning.  Excuse the no-makeup-no-sleep-momma look...
Merry Christmas! If his smile doesn't just make you melt, well, then I guess you aren't his parents.  This season has always been my favorite, but having it to celebrate with our very own small family cell was spectacular.  We had lots of gift opening and smiles that day.  I think I could spend hours just staring at my kid.  Did you ever think that Mary just stared at Jesus on that first Christmas?  When all the hoopla and celebration was going on with the shepherds that she just observed from afar?  I'm beginning to think she just couldn't take her eyes off Him....just like I couldn't take mine off Cohen this year.



My sister-in-law and I must have similar tastes.  Both our children had the same outfit on that evening from Carters.  We stopped for a bit to have a photo shoot with the cousins dressed alike.  Finley liked her green bow and Cohen just liked the flashing lights from his toys.  I think Finley and Cohen have some similar features- definitely both Grafton kiddos!

Cohen and his Poppy resting after a busy Christmas morning. Don't you just love the Santa-face-on-the-baby-butt appliqué?



Cohen says Merry Christmas everyone.  Next year I'll be into everything.....


Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Cohen's First Christmas - Havlik Style

On Friday, December 21st, we headed out early from work on the first leg of our Christmas journey.  Tulsa was the first stop on the list ;-)

I think Santa Claus always goes a little crazy at my mom's house.  We exchanged family gifts this night because Audrey and Dallas had to work the next day.  We all take turns opening gifts, and most have clues.  Its the best way for all of us to enjoy the time.  Plus, its a little less crazy than everyone going at it at once.

Mom got her Cohen time in for the weekend.  In fact, when we first drove up that night she bypassed us parents and beelined it for the baby.  Go figure ;-)  We are getting used to being second class dogs now!
Me and my daddy ;-)  Excuse the double chin and horrible hairstyle...
My sister, Laura, and her husband, Drew, opening gifts.  I think they got more Orange OSU stuff than any of us!
My other sister, Audrey, and her piles of presents.  Can you say spoiled.....?!?
Our baby Bella.  She was having a blast eating treats from her stocking!
Me, Mom and Audrey listening to people read clues.  We all try to guess what it could be.  I will say dad's Santa did a good job of clue-making. Many of them I couldn't guess before I opened!

Cohen had just started learning to laugh.  When we got him to laugh, it was a really big deal, and we hadn't really caught any laughs on camera.  Audrey's dog, Billie, was apparently hallarious...and Cohen laughed the entire night at her.  It was super fun!
Our Ollie baby!
Merry Christmas!!

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

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8

EIGHT years!

Happy Anniversary to the best husband ever. Seriously.  I'm sorry ladies, but I think I got the best catch :-)

Just a short 8 years ago, we were celebrating New Year's Eve with our closest friends and family in Tulsa. I thnk we can say that our 'rehearsal dinner' was just as much fun as our 'wedding day.'





Patrick, in these eight years, I love:
- you ;-)
- our son
- your faith and how you are the pray-er for our family.
- your sense of humor.  You always have something to lighten the mood.
- your emotions.  You make up for my lack there-of and its perfect.  I even love when you cry.
- your lack of inhibition.  You push me to experience things I never would do on my own.
- the way you clean our house, especially during my pregnancy and since Cohen's arrival.
- the way you love our families.
- the way you take car of our fur-babies.

This year we celebrated a lot, cried a lot, and grew as a couple more than I though possible.  I can't wait to see what this next year brings.  Happy 8th anniversary to my best friend, my soul-mate, my husband.  I love you.

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